1. Since my recent divorce, I feel the energy of a new love nearby. How can I accelerate the process? And, why do I attract only younger men? They are very interesting, intelligent, humorous, sensitive, but I'm not attracted to them.

2. Sometimes I fear rejection and abandonment. What can I do? How can I be more stable and trusting in love, and more grounded as a woman??

3. I feel it's time to make some changes in my work. Is it appropriate for me to work with a team?

Channeled Session with Paularyo:

Paularyo:

Greetings my dear Ingrid. It is our pleasure to be with you. In regards to your questions...there is a part of you which is still like a little girl. It is the part of you which feels insecure. It is the part of you which fears rejection and abandonment. We would like to focus on that part of you today. It is the part of you which attracts younger men. Are you ready to focus on that, and gain some tools to transform that part of you?

Ingrid: Yes.

Paularyo:

First, my dear, allow yourself to take 3 deep relaxing breaths. Invite in your Guides. Invite in the Masters. Invite in the God Source. Invite in Mother Earth. And invite us, Paularyo, into your bubble. 

Allow your bubble to expand. Allow it to be easy. 

As your bubble expands, your body becomes more and more peaceful. Your emotions become more and more calm. Your connection to Spirit becomes stronger and stronger. Allow yourself to just be. Allow yourself to fully relax. Allow your bubble to become as large as the universe. 

Now my dear, allow your bubble to float up. As your bubble floats up, your heart goes with it. Leave your physical body here. Imagine your heart, which contains the energy of your soul, to float up.

Allow your heart to play! Allow it to be free. Allow it to fly and have fun.  

Remember who you are in your soul energy. You are kind, and loving, and compassionate, and gentle, and caring, and more...

Now, my dear, allow your bubble to float back in time. Allow it to find the time that the little girl in you stopped growing up.

Follow your heart. You do not know where it will go. Allow your heart to tell you.

When your heart stops, look down from your heart and see you, Ingrid, as a little girl. How old is little Ingrid?

Ingrid: 11

Paularyo: What do you see little Ingrid doing? Do not remember what you did.

Ingrid: Yes, yes, I am for the first time in Italy with my parents.

Paularyo: What is little Ingrid's emotion? We see fear of rejection from her father.

Ingrid: I feel shame. I don't feel good. I am with my friend from school and some other people.

Paularyo: What is the shame about?

Ingrid: I don't want to shake hands with a boy. One of his fingers is missing. My father rejects me.

Paularyo: When your father rejects you, how does it feel inside?

Ingrid: I feel abandoned by my father. It is as if he betrays me, his daughter.

Paularyo:

That is the same feeling you have today that keeps coming into your emotions...the fear of rejection and abandonment. It interfers with creating healthy love relationships.

We want you now to allow your heart to float down to little Ingrid. Your heart and soul enter Ingrid. Now, image that you are little Ingrid. This time you have your heart and soul energy with you. Remember that you are loving and kind and compassionate.....just be your soul energies. And when you see that little boy, how do you respond?

Ingrid: I'm neutral about this boy.

Paularyo:

Now, image that your father rejects you anyway. Be in your heart and know that his reaction to you is not about you....it is about him and his fears. Do you understand?

Ingrid: Yes, this is his fear.

Paularyo: See your father with compassion. See that your father has many fears.

Ingrid: Yes, yes.

Paularyo:

And that he keeps his fears hidden from himself. So he projects his fears onto you and then he rejects you. Yes?

Ingrid: Yes.

Paularyo: Be little Ingrid and have compassion for your father. When you have compassion for him, how do you feel?

Ingrid: I feel warm. I feel a strong warm energy in my solar plexus and vibrations in my 2nd chakra.

Paularyo:

Oh, that is wonderful! Now, take that energy with you and allow your bubble to float back up. Allow it to float to a recent time when you felt rejected. And then allow your bubble to float down and have compassion for the person that you felt rejected you. 

See that person with your third eye. See his emotions, his fear, his pain and have compassion for him. How does it feel for you?

Ingrid: I have a good, warm feeling in my body from my head to my feet.

Paularyo:

Perfect! Now allow your bubble to float up and allow it to move forward in time until you come to this moment and allow it to float down and become you in this moment.

Ingrid: OK

Paularyo:

My dear, younger men have been attracted to you because when you are with them you do not fear rejection. You are just you and they see the real you. They are attracted to the real you. 

But when you see a man who you are attracted to, you immediately feel the fear of rejection and you became that little Ingrid who felt scared and ashamed. So the man does not meet the real you, the adult you. The man meets the little girl who is afraid. 

Now, allow your bubble to float back up with that warm wonderful feeling and allow it to float back to a time when you recently met a man that you were attracted to. Allow the bubble to float down and imagine that you are meeting this man as the real you…the you who is strong and warm and loving and compassionate. How does that feel?

Ingrid: I feel good, but there is pain in my heart.

Paularyo:

Allow your heart to float back up. Return to your soul energy. Leave your body behind.

Look down upon the Ingrid who is in pain and know...the pain in her heart is adult pain, not the childhood pain of fear of abandonment. It is the pain from your marriage. Fear that if you get into a marriage again, it will not work and you will feel abandoned. Yes?

Ingrid: Yes.

Paularyo:

Allow your heart to float back down to that moment and see the pain in your heart. Give it an image. What does it look like? An apple? A ball of energy? A broken heart? What does it look like?

Ingrid: It looks like a black energy between my heart and stomach.

Paularyo:

Ask that black energy to come out of your body so we can speak to it. Ask it to float in front of you in the middle of the air. 

Talk to it and ask it..."What have you come to teach me?" Listen to it. What does it tell you?

Ingrid: "You can be sad and vulnerable and you can be joyful and playful. All of these are you."

Paularyo: Wonderful!

Ingrid: "You don't need to be strong always."

Paularyo: Yes! Say "Thank you" to the energy. When you allow yourself to feel those feelings, you can then heal.

Ingrid: I can be excited!

Paularyo:

Yes! Now ask the black energy to change into an image that represents the real you...not the woman who is afraid of rejection...but the woman who is whole. What does it change into?

Ingrid: A butterfly, very playful, easy and gentle. 

Paularyo: What message does the butterfly give you?

Ingrid:

"When other people don't want you to be happy, that is their perspective. Allow it to be easy. Life is great. The possibilities are always. See all the wonder in front of you here and now. Be in this moment, grounded."

Paularyo:

Oh oh oh oh....wonderful!! Now ask the butterfly to come into your body where the black energy was before. How does it feel in your body?

Ingrid:

Something releases in my heart and arms. I have a warm feeling in my stomach, in my 2th chakra. I like this grounded feeling.

Paularyo:

Now, my dear, imagine that you are with that man. Be the whole you! Vulnerable and playful...and compassionate and loving...how do you feel? How does your heart feel?

Ingrid: Great!

Paularyo: Yes! Now allow your bubble to float up.

Ingrid: OK

Paularyo:

Allow your heart to float into the future. Allow it to land and imagine that you meet a man that you are attracted to. Feel the butterfly in your body. Feel the whole you...vulnerable and excited and compassionate and loving.

Ingrid: OK

Paularyo: What happens in your heart?

Ingrid: My heart is more open with great loving energy.

Paularyo:

My dear, every day, imagine this. Over and over and over again. As you image it, it becomes easier and easier and easier. Allow it to be easy.

Ingrid: Yes, I will. Thank you. 

Paularyo:

You had an old habit that went into your subconscious. You now brought it to your consciousness so you can transform it into a new habit. You have the tools for transformation you were seeking to heal yourself.

Does this answer your question about how you can bring a new love into your life, and be more grounded as a woman?

Ingrid: Oh yes, thanks. I will develop the habit of having these good feelings.

Paularyo:

My dear, stay in the future for a moment. Stay in that energy. You asked about working in teams. See yourself working in teams in the future. How does it feel?

Ingrid: Good, except I have one little bad feeling in my stomach.

Paularyo: That is your fear of trusting others.

Ingrid: I have fear that I am responsible for others.

Paularyo: Give that fear an image. What does it look like?

Ingrid: A black octopus.

Paularyo:

Ask it to come out of your body and be suspended in front of you. Ask it to give you a message. What does it say to you? It tells us that you expect yourself to be able to do too much.

Ingrid: "Trust your abilities for living and working with other people. You can trust their abilities."

Paularyo: Yes! Trust the others to be able to do the work that you have been expecting yourself to do!

Ingrid: I can rest and play...and dance and laugh again.

Paularyo: Yes! Ask the octopus to change into an image that represents you resting and playing. What does it become?

Ingrid: A dolphin! I like dolphins very much.

Paularyo: Ahhhhh Bring the dolphin into your stomach. How does it feel?

Ingrid: I have the feeling of letting go and releasing and playing and surrendering.

Paularyo: Now bring your bubble and that energy back to this moment...the butterfly and the dolphin

You have the answers to all of your questions. Yes?

Ingrid: Yes! I have the feeling that this moment is great!

Paularyo:

Wonderful. Be in the moment. Keep returning to this feeling. Do it again and again and again and again until it becomes your new habit. Will you do that?

Ingrid: OK, I will not worry about others.

Paularyo: My dear, it has been such a pleasure to be with you.

Ingrid: Yes, yes.

Paularyo:

We wish you ease and trust and faith and butterflies and dolphins in your life as you move forward in your relationship with yourself, with men and in your career. Blessings to you my dear. We leave you now with great love and honor. Good day my dear.

Ingrid:

Thank you very much. Now I feel very good. This is a great healing for me. And real good support for me in this time. Thank you, thank you!!!

Paularyo: It is such a pleasure and an honor for us to be a part of your healing path. Good day my dear.

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